Happy Ever After
Today my 7 year old daughter who believes in Princes, Princesses, Fairies, Unicorns and happy ever after, asked me with tears in her eyes why her Dad and I don’t love each other anymore.
It was a hard question to answer and I tried to keep it as age appropriately honest as possible. It must be hard for her, for this little girl who so firmly believes that love can conquer all to accept that the two people she looks up to most doesn’t love each other anymore. What questions must that raise for her in her little head.
I told her that her Dad and I still love each other, just in a different way. That we didn’t plan for things to work out this way and that I’m sorry. I asked her if she could remember how much we fought all the time and said that we don’t want to fight anymore, so it’s better for us all if we live apart. I also reminded her about all the good things that’s happening.
She still wanted to know but why we don’t love each other anymore. She misses her Dad, she wants us all to live together again. My son hugged me tight this morning and said to me “I will never leave you Mommy, I will never let you go”. It’s sad for me to see the immediate emotional effect that this has on my children. It’s sad that sometimes in life we as adults make choices and that years later it impacts so profoundly on others.
But at the end of the day, these children of mine, these two awesome amazing little innocent children in their wisdom chose me and their father for a reason. This is the path they chose and it’s my job to guide them and teach them and show them that from perceived bad, good things can be born. I am lucky in a roundabout way that I am from a divorced home, because I can take my experience and try to make it better and different for them. I can give them the tools to help them deal with this better.
I hope that my little girl will get her happy ever after one day. And that I will be able to show her the way.